10 Things I learned about Being 33 Years Old
- It is important for you to allow your self “alone time”– go travel alone, go to dinner, go on a hike, go shopping– what ever you choose, do it alone so you can discuss with yourself how you are feeling and how to be better at whatever you are facing.
- It is ok not to be ok. Be honest with yourself and allow yourself to feel what ever you are feeling. Cry, be upset what ever you are feeling, do not hold it in as if you do not deserve to be human.
- Every failure is not always negative. Some failures are meant to knock you off your feet to change your perspective.
- Every time you worry, you choose to fill up you stress “piggy bank”. Instead with every worry, deposit your time and effort in your prayer “piggy bank”.
- It takes a conscious effort to heal, you can’t just expect time to heal you.
- There is a little beauty in heartache if it allows you to appreciate all forms of love.
- You owe yourself enough respect to be honest with yourself.
- You do not have to accept every thought or emotion you experience– keep the ones that are designed to advance you and dispose of those that are meant to destroy you from the inside.
- Know how you feel before someone else determines how you should feel.
- Patience with family is Love, Patience with others is Respect, Patience with yourself is Confidence, Patience with God is Faith.
10 Realities of Heart Break
10. Reality that change is inevitable. 9. Reality that someone didn’t understand you as much as you once thought they did. 8. Reality that you have to decide to use this experience to make you better or bitter. 7. Reality of understanding that true heart-break takes time to heal from, and true healing does not have a time line. 6. Reality of your heart issues flows out of you mouth and fuel your thinking. 5. Reality that when you’re heart-broken, then you feel everything. 4. Reality that the other person has probably moved on. 3. Reality of understanding the importance of experiencing love and giving as much as you are taken. 2. Reality of understanding the importance of releasing the past to move forward. 1. Reality that although the heart-break was deep and crippling, it has pushed you to a new level.
10 Moments of Life
- Moments of Laughter
- Moments of Love
- Moments of Wisdom
- Moments of Peace
- Moments of Pain/Hurt
- Moments of Excitement
- Moments of Anger/Hate
- Moments of Preparation
- Moments of Uncertainty
- Moments of Passion
10 mistakes I know I made in my 20s
- Making decisions out of emotions.
- Trying to convince someone to stay when they want to leave.
- Convincing myself that he will see my love for him and it will make him love me back.
- Not understanding the value of credit scores.
- Chased after quantity versus quality. (staying in a relationship because of the time invested versus the quality of a relationship)
- Being too prideful to ask for help.
- Allowing others to determine my worth.
- Having so much faith and positive thinking for others but no words of encouragement for myself.
- Settled for less because I was lonely.
- Didn’t start saving aggressively for retirement.
10 Things I have learned so far in my 30s.
- No one will ever love you like you love yourself. You and Jesus are the only ones that knows everything about you still love you in spite of you.
- In every pain there’s purpose.
- The goal in everything should be about Quality and not Quantity.
- Time heals all things, it sucks during the process but it’s always a little better the next day.
- Prospective is EVERYTHING.
- Everything in life that is meant to happen will happen with or without any help from you.
- If anything matters, then everything matters.
- Any love that does not continue was probably flawed in the first place. (TD Jakes)
- There is always an opportunity for growth with every failure.
- All that truly matters in the end is that you gave your all and that you loved.